Malti Shanker

I have this friend of mine who is really apprehensive in context of her child’s future. Her child lacks self confidence. So, whenever there is a poetry test, even when he is verbatim with the words, he seldom speaks out anything. It is not just the case of school. When children bully him, he lets them do it. And when asked he keeps on looking down (as if it was his mistake). You can well imagine being parents yourself, how tedious it must be for my friend.

Other than ensuring that our child has sound physical health, it is equally important that they develop good personality traits. Self confidence is one such important trait.

It is really important to have self confidence. Confidence is a trust in yourself that you are correct. It is with confidence that you are able to voice out yourself in front of others. It is the confidence that makes you a good orator, a fine dancer or a good presenter. Whether entering a party or talking in a group of friends or simply conversing, confidence has a language of its own. Thus, if you have a kid whom you think lacks self confidence, then here are some tips which can come handy:-

• • Love your child- Many of you will muse and think that you do love your child. However, it is not just love and care which you need to nurture. You have to show your child unconditional love. Your kid needs to understand that whatsoever he does and whoever he becomes in the future, your love will not change. This is bound to give him a feeling of self worth.
  
  
• • Appreciate- It may be a small drawing he has made or some new dance move he tries, always appreciate him. You were not born to beget Picasso or Shakespeare or Einstein. It is absolutely alright if he makes mistakes. Every child has one quality which is endearing. Make sure to appreciate that. You will be surprised how with little appreciation your child blooms.
  
  
• • Do not compare- this is another of the biggest mistake that the most educated parents make. Why do you have to compare your child with everyone? Imagine you being compared with your colleague for your office work by your boss. If it is painful for you, it will be even more painful for the little one. You are his life. If you keep on making him look down, how will be showing his real talent.
  
  
• • Do not insult him in front of others- there are times when you might be really outraged at some act pursued by your child. Count to 10. Take a deep breath. Come home and talk to him about it. It is really inappropriate to scold your child in front of others. He will feel ashamed beyond boundaries. It is better to reach home and then talk to him about it.
  
  
• • Talk to him about his fears- Is there nothing you are afraid of? Water, height, speaking in front of others or doctors? When you all grown up, are still not able to conquer your fear, why do you expect the same from your child? Talk to him about your fears. Talk to him about his fears. Let him know that it is absolutely fine to be afraid. And then, slowly help him to deal with it.

Make these tips a part of your life. Children are like buds; let them bloom in their own way. You are in the world to take care of them, love them, and nurture them. So stay positive, be happy and love your child unconditionally. Happy parenting!